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Our contributor:
Elizabeth Pantley
Author
Parenting
educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Beginnings, Inc., a family
resource and education company. Elizabeth frequently speaks to parents in
schools, hospitals, and parent groups, and her presentations are received with
enthusiasm and praise.
She is a regular radio show guest and
frequently quoted as a parenting expert in magazines such as
Parents, Parenting, Woman's Day, Good Housekeeping, McCalls,
and Redbook and on more than 80 parent-directed Websites.
She publishes a newsletter, Parent Tips ,
that is distributed in schools nationwide, and she is the author of
these parenting books (available in 18
languages):
She and
her husband, Robert, live in the state of Washington with their four children
and assorted family pets. She is an involved participant in her children's
school and sports activities and has served in positions as varied as softball
coach and PTA president.
Elizabeth Pantley,
Author/Parent Educator
www.pantley.com/elizabeth
"There
is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the
world than a transformation of the way we raise our children."
--- Marianne
Williamson
Featured Article:
Tips for Single Moms -
twice monthly advice from our contributor expert/author Elizabeth
Pantley at
www.pantley.com/elizabeth
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Tips for a new mom to things that matter to all Mothers.
Sleeping problems
What is Preventing Your Baby from Sleeping Through
the Night?
By Elizabeth
Pantley - Author of
The No-Cry Sleep Solution:
Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night
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A
breakthrough approach for a good night's sleep--with no tears - There are two
schools of thought for encouraging babies to sleep through the night: the hotly
debated Ferber technique of letting the baby "cry it out," or the
grin-and-bear-it solution of getting up from dusk to dawn as often as necessary.
If you don't believe in letting your baby cry it out, but desperately want to
sleep, there is now a third option, presented in Elizabeth Pantley's
sanity-saving book The No-Cry Sleep Solution. Pantley's successful
solution has been tested and proven effective by scores of mothers and their
babies from across the United States, Canada, and Europe. Based on her research,
Pantley's guide provides you with effective strategies to overcoming naptime and
nighttime problems. The No-Cry Sleep Solution offers clearly explained,
step-by-step ideas that steer your little ones toward a good night's sleep--all
with no crying.
Newborn
Babies and Sleep -
By Elizabeth Pantley,
Author of
The No-Cry Sleep Solution:
Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night -
Congratulations on the
birth of your new baby. This is a glorious time in your life – and a
sleepless time too.
Newborns have very different sleep needs than
older babies. This article will help you understand your baby’s
developing sleep patterns, and will help you have reasonable
expectations for sleep.
Read, Learn, and Beware of Bad Advice -
Absolutely everyone
has an opinion about how you should handle sleep issues with your
new baby. The danger to a new parent is that these tidbits of
misguided advice (no matter how well-intentioned) can truly have a
negative effect on our parenting skills and, by extension, our
babies’ development…if we are not aware of the facts. The
more knowledge you have the less likely that other people will make
you doubt your parenting decisions.
Wonderful Sounds for Sleep
- By Elizabeth Pantley
- Author of
The No-Cry Sleep Solution:
Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night -
The environment that your
baby enjoyed for nine long months in the womb was not one of absolute
quiet.
There was a constant symphony of sound -- your heartbeat and fluids rushing in
and out of the placenta. (Remember those sounds from when you listened to your
baby’s heartbeat with the Doppler stethoscope?) Research indicates that “white
noise” sounds or soft bedtime music helps many babies to relax and fall asleep
more easily. This is most certainly because these sounds create an environment
more familiar to your baby than a very quiet room. Many people enjoy using
soothing music as their baby’s sleep sound. If you do, choose bedtime music
carefully. Some music (including jazz and much classical music) is too complex
and stimulating. For music to be soothing to your baby, pick simple, repetitive,
predictable music, like traditional lullabies. Tapes created especially for
putting babies to sleep are great choices. There are widely available,
and very lovely, "nature sounds" tapes that work nicely, too, as well those
small sound-generating or white-noise devices and clocks you may have seen in
stores. The sounds on these -- raindrops, a bubbling brook or running water --
often are similar to those sounds your baby heard in utero. A ticking clock or a
bubbling fish tank also make wonderful white-noise options.
Things That Matters to
Mom on Daily Basic
Car Seat Crying
- By
Elizabeth Pantley - Author of
Gentle Baby Care:
Essential Tips for Raising Your
Baby -
Some
babies fall asleep almost before you’re out of the driveway, but
others won’t spend five happy minutes in their car seats.
Usually, this is because your baby is used to more freedom of
movement and more physical attention than you can provide when she’s
belted into her seat. Hearing
your baby cry while you are trying to drive is challenging.
Even though it’s difficult to deal with, remember that you and your
baby’s safety are most important. Parents sometimes take a crying
baby out of the car seat, which is extremely dangerous and makes it
even more difficult for the baby to get used to riding in the car
seat. Some parents make poor driving decisions when their babies are
crying, which puts everyone in the car at risk. Either pull over and
calm your baby down, or focus on your driving. Don’t try to do both.
Handling Unwanted Advice
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By
Elizabeth Pantley - Author of
Gentle Baby Care:
Essential Tips for Raising Your
Baby -
“Help!
I’m getting so frustrated with the endless stream of advice I get
from my mother-in-law and brother! No matter what I do, I’m doing it
wrong. I love them both, but how do I get them to stop dispensing
all this unwanted advice?”
Just as
your baby is an important part of your life, he is also important to
others. People who care about your baby are bonded to you and your
child in a special way that invites their counsel. Knowing this may
give you a reason to handle the iinterference
gently, in a way that leaves everyone’s feelings intact.
Regardless of the advice, it is your baby, and in the end,
you will raise your child the way that you think best. So it’s
rarely worth creating a war over a well-meaning person’s comments.
First-Born
Jealousy
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By Elizabeth
Pantley -
The No-Cry Sleep Solution:
Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night
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Question: Our first-born is showing extreme jealousy towards the
new baby. He’s obviously mad at us for disrupting the predictable
flow of his life with this new challenger for our attention. How can
we smooth things out?
Think about it: Before the baby entered your family, your toddler
was told he’d have a wonderful little brother to play with, and how
much fun it would be. Then the little brother is born and your
toddler is thinking, “Are you kidding me? This squirming,
red-faced baby that takes up all your time and attention is supposed
to be FUN?” He then “plays” with the baby in the only ways he
knows how. He plays catch. You yell at him for throwing toys at the
baby. He plays hide-and-seek. You yell at him to get the blanket off
the baby. He gives the kid a hug, and you admonish him to be more
careful. Is it any wonder that your toddler is confused?
