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FOURTH WEEK OF JANUARY
"Single Mom in love & I worry about my son "
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Q: "We met while going to
school. Fell in love and I thought we would live forever
together. We went out for 1 year and then things fell apart... I got pregnant. He left and I was caught between a broken heart
and the fear of being a single mom. Had baby boy
(whom is my true love). 2 years later guy shows up
and wants time with his son. I put aside my broken heart and accepted
the fact that we would never be. So, I did want my son to get to know
his dad. It's been a few years now and my son still cries and cries for he does not want to go with his dad. His parents spend a
lot of time watching my son and really not him. He
has a girl friend now and every time her gets one he
treats me like garbage. I have such feelings of anger, and frustration
with guy. He's always pushing my button and trying to make me look
like I'm some emotional freak. My son never want to go with him and when I get him back after the weekend my son tells me that
he didn't want to come home to me. He has more fun
with his dad (after saying his dad doesn't play with
him). I am a wonderful mom and I work very hard to have the nice life
my son I have today. It breaks my heart when my son tells me these things.
He also says he want to live with his dad (he's only 6). This only happens
the first day when he comes back after that my son can't have me out of his sight. He tells me that he's worried that the new
girlfriend will take over for me. I told my son that
I am his mommy forever and ever. I don't know what
to say to my or what to do when he comes back with weird comments.
I know his dad must tell him to say these things. I don't want my son
to grow up all mixed up with his feelings. I just want him to be happy and I do want him to enjoy his visits with his dad (for his
sake). What do I do with these comments of my son?
What do I do with an ex that I can't even look at? Anelia"
A: "In reply to Anelia, thank you for
sending in your story. Reading it, I can feel the angry, frustration,
disappointment and sadness in your letter. Anyone who is going through a
situation like you, would feel the same way that you do. And I want you to
know that you did a very RIGHT thing to allow your son to see his father.
However, if the father doesn't treat your son right. You have the right to
know what is going on with your son when here is there with his father's
family.You also did the RIGHT thing to raise your son on your own for two
years. Where was the father? He wasn't around for his own son' sake. Now,
did the father ever help you out with financially? Did he pay any child
support at all? Well, if he doesn't and acts up like he is always there
for your son. You can always contact the authority and someone will more
than willing to assist you with what you should do.
The main thing here is how to raise your son right in a good
environment, in a loving way, and a functional family. According to what
you told me in the letter, I'm more worried about your son. And it seems
like you do get the emotional get over you. To deal with the father and
his family. You may want to be calm and I know it breaks your heart each
time you hear your son makes weird comments toward you. I understand that
as a mother, you have all the right to be angry over it.
Again, you were the one allowed the father came to your son's life
again. You should be able to control your emotion. Please stay calm and
play it cool with the father. Again, just like you said, for your son's
sake! Your son deserves love, care, and support from you. If the father
already tried to "brainwash' your son. It's not healthy at all for
the child. The father tried to manipulate his own son... Imagine what will
be the worst that he can do to your son? Again, you are not so sure, but
you know the fact that your son acts all weird after each visit to his
father's family.
I highly suggest that you should visit a doctor or a counselor and tell
them what is going on with your son. you need to keep track to all this
visit so that you have a proof for future use. You also should contact
your local "child abuse" department to see if they can have a
counselor to talk to your son. In that way, you will know what your son
has been listened to each time he is with his father.
Remember, you are doing all this for your son and so do not let your
emotion get over you. It's your choice of bringing this child to life, and
because of that, raise and treat him the way he deserves it. Years from
now, you will look back and you know that you did the right thing. And
your son will always love you.
Take care and let me know how things go for you and your son. In the
meantime, give your son a lot of love, caring, and support. Remind him
that you miss him a lot each time he goes away and that you will always be
there for him.
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