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91 Ways to Save on Almost Anything
Here's how to stretch your dollars -- and pinch your pennies 'til they scream -- while you feel little or no pain.
by Kiplinger's Personal Finance Magazine
Want to save a buck? How about a few hundred or a couple thousand?
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Fourth Week Of February
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Q:
"Good Morning Joy, I've been a single mom for 4 years now. Father does see her every other weekend if he's not busy playing with his band which comes first. He is like her playmate only he doesn't take her anywhere when he has her only rents movies and plays video games with her. She spends a lot of time playing on her own according to her. Then even though he only has her twice a month he sometimes drops her off at his mom's. He just sickens me. He's always late with child support (verbal agreement-court's didn't work). He does not get involved in her schooling, activities, or clubs that I cart her around to. I am just so tired of being the strong one, the responsible one, the mother and the real father. Help. Ritz"
A:
"In reply to Ritz., thank you for visiting SingleMom.com™. I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through right now. You're such a great mother that any kid would wish to have. Reading your Email, I can feel your anger, helpless, & desperate to change the situation to make it better for your daughter. You're hurting to see what your daughter is going through. As you realize that the father of your daughter doesn't really care much for his own daughter or he's not good enough to be a father. And that's why he is your ex. Some men grow up & get wiser. Others just simply get older. If everyone is responsible as you, wouldn't that be a nice place to live. There would be no divorce and no single parents! However, life is tough. It's painful & beautiful at the same time. It's beautiful to see your beautiful daughter smile every morning :-) And it's painful to see her unhappy each time she comes back from her father's place. Accept it that the father is an irresponsible father and you must try harder to raise your daughter on your own. You're the both parents for your daughter right now.
It's great that you can see all these and it's sad that nothing much that you can do to make him change for the better. There's some alternative ways that you can try to make some improvement. You can either talk to his mother about how much your daughter wants to spend "quality time" with her Dad, hopefully the mother can talk to her son about it.
I understand that it's difficult to see your daughter does not get enough caring & support from her father. Because of that, try to talk to your ex again. As you mentioned, verbal wasn't a successful method to deal with him. However, just for your daughter's sake, try it again in a different tone of voice. Put your pride on a side and try to talk to him in a different way. Explain to him that he is hurting his own daughter's feeling. Ask if there's anything you can do to make this better for your daughter. I hope that with this "peace talk" will somehow make him reconsider about it.
I wish you the best and I hope that somehow a miracle will happen to your daughter. Her father will change his behavior for the better. In the meantime, keep up the wonderful works that you do to raise your daughter right now"
I hope you find these information and I wish you the best. Thank you for visiting SingleMom.com™."
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