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Techniques of an Identity Thief

 

Shiva Brent Sharma, who is serving a two- to four-year prison term, describes the techniques he used as an online identity thief.

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Eunice is Kid of the Month

 

 

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The Milk Gap

 

 

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How to Turn Your Life Around with Powerful Thoughts

 

contributed by Jennifer Snyder

I hate to admit it now, but after my divorce, I spent more than one Sunday afternoon in bed playing “Uber-Damsel in Distress”. Growing older and wiser may result in a plethora of gray hair, but am I ever glad that those days are over.

 

A script similar to my own dramatic whining will follow later in this article.

 

This isn’t the first commentary I have written about acknowledging one’s power, but this is the first article I’ve penned with a film and scientific data to support my motivational claims.

 

We recently rented the movie, What The Bleep Do We Know.

 

At the core of this film are the provocative questions about the way we participate, consciously or not, in an unfolding reality. I found many parts of this movie to be fascinating, but the section that resonated most clearly for me was a part about the brain. You may not accept all of the scientists’ claims but if their points are valid, what I’m going to share with you can change your life.

 

The way I understand the theory about brain function in What The Bleep is that if we think a certain way for long enough, those connections between brain cells are strengthened and we automatically default to that way of thinking. Throughout our day, we make decisions about what events mean and what should be done about them. We aren’t required to make a new decision with each circumstance because with repeated experiences, our brain forms associations. Thus, if we accept limited power for long enough, we begin to automatically go through life as a victim.

 

If, however, we begin responding in a new way, we not only break free from victim thinking and experience happier outcomes, but we reprogram the connections between brain cells so that positive thinking is the direction in which they default. By choosing fresh, creative responses we truly begin to experience a more positive, powerful life.

 

Okay, let’s put this theory into Jennifer’s mournful role-play from a decade ago:

 

Setting: Darkened bedroom; our main character (the dramatic victim) is in bed, almost hidden by the covers over her head.

 

Plot: Our main character lives primarily in fear and agrees to anything her former husband demands because “he is powerful”, and she hates controversy. This latest dilemma is only more of the same in an endless cycle perpetuated by her limited beliefs.

 

Lights... camera... action.

 

And we roll:

 

“There’s nothing I can do. I can’t fight; he’s so powerful and can squash me like a bug. I know I’ve said it before, but there’s nothing I can do. Yes, I’ll probably lose the house and have to live under an overpass. Yes, even though I’m a great mother he may sway someone into believing my children shouldn’t live with me. Yes, I’ll probably grow old all by myself, and…”

 

Cut!

 

Couldn’t you almost hear those brain cells leaping into their familiar, defeatist patterns?

 

I warned you that it wasn’t pretty. Let’s get away from this angst.

 

But wait - before we shift our thinking and turn things around, I must admit that the next step isn’t an easy one. It will require you to pay attention to every reaction, and everything you say, for a while.

 

Back in the early 90s, I wasn’t blessed with the knowledge I’m sharing with you. I believe that courage, support, and experience gradually liberated me from my own limited beliefs. Otherwise, it would have taken that first stage of a rocket to launch this woman from her boudoir of despair.

 

But you have the luxury of current information. How can you rewrite your own script for powerful thinking, positive brain connections, and better results?

 

Still allowing for just a little drama, how about this reaction:

 

“Man, I would hate to be so unhappy that I had to express my authority in disagreeable ways. Okay, I’m not willing to give in to this demand but I can be a little more flexible in another area Let me return his call now so we can move beyond this difficulty. I am so grateful to have supportive friends who listen, and help me to problem solve. At least this relationship gave us wonderful children.”

 

New responses and realigned connections in your brain aren’t made overnight, but once they have been established, you’ll proclaim your power like never before.

 

About Author:

Jennifer Snyder, acclaimed life coach and workshop leader, women’s columnist, and tele-instructor has worked with almost 9,000 women across the United States. Her clients are separated and divorced women who cannot wait to proclaim their power. She is the author of a self-discovery workbook, The Time of Your Life: A Creative Sourcebook for Women. The Sourcebook can be ordered at www.timeofyourlifeafterdivorce.com.

 

Jennifer can be reached at 919/414-7197 or visit her Web site at www.timeofyourlifeafterdivorce.com.

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Your 15-point tax-return checklist

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On the Job, Nursing Mothers Find a 2-Class System

 

 

When a new mother returns to Starbucks’ corporate headquarters in Seattle after maternity leave, she learns what is behind the doors mysteriously marked “Lactation Room.”

 

Whenever she likes, she can slip away from her desk and behind those doors, sit in a plush recliner and behind curtains, and leaf through InStyle magazine as she holds a company-supplied pump to her chest, depositing her breast milk in bottles to be toted home later.

 

But if the mothers who staff the chain’s counters want to do the same, they must barricade themselves in small restrooms intended for customers, counting the minutes left in their breaks.

 

“Breast milk is supposed to be the best milk, I read it constantly when I was pregnant,” said Brittany Moore, who works at a Starbucks in Manhattan and feeds her 9-month old daughter formula. “I felt bad, I want the best for my child,” she said. “None of the moms here that I know actually breast-feed.”

 

Doctors firmly believe that breast milk is something of a magic elixir for babies, sharply reducing the rate of infection, and quite possibly reducing the risk of allergies, obesity, and chronic disease later in life.

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