Parents need not search any further for the secret to changing their children's behavior and maintaining positive changes in their home. I have taught hundreds of parents how to motivate children to want to be well-behaved. Readers of my book When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You and thousands of my audience members are amazed to find the secret to changing behavior is much easier than they thought.

Fundamental Strategies For Changing Behavior

Many parents taking control of young children's behavior find it particularly challenging to change the patterns they have established in terms of acting and reacting. Review these three strategies and then give yourself just a few extra seconds to think before reacting to your child's next outburst.

1. Find your Child’s “Buy In” – Your child, like you, is motivated when they have an invested interest in changing. Find your child’s motivation and you’ve got it made. For instance, a child’s “buy in” to helping make dinner may be that they get to eat. If suddenly you “go on strike” and no one helps out, dinner is not made. You are guaranteed to have found your child (and maybe even your spouse’s) “buy in”.
    

2. Discipline with Joy – Instead of yelling and throwing a tantrum yourself, follow through and discipline with joy. Children do badly when they feel bad. Making a child feel worse about their action rarely inspires them to improve their behavior.
    

3. Follow-through – When you say you're going to do something, do it. Empty threats only teach your child to not listen to you.