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Rebuilding: Proclaim Your Power!
By
Jennifer
Snyder
 This is the mantra I’ve been exclaiming since I began
coaching and facilitating workshops for separated and divorced women.
“Proclaim
your power!”
These
three words are written in every email and letter that leaves my office, and
expressed verbally to every woman whose path I cross. Susan Cowsill can be heard
singing, “Nothing can stop me now, and it never could anyhow…” on the website’s
introduction.
But how
does one proclaim their power when faced with fear and overwhelm, with sadness
by the loss of their marriage? While not minimizing the wide range of deep
emotions that accompany separation and divorce, there are some very basic steps
that women can take in order to restore self confidence and build an ideal life
on their own. Five steps that can easily be recalled by remembering
P-O-W-E-R
are:
PLAN: Start setting goals for yourself and
making plans to achieve what you want in the future. During our initial
conversations, I often hear coaching clients say, “I feel like I don’t have any
control over my life. Things just happen to me and I’m forced to react”.
Together, we work hard to determine what the client dreams of having in her life
and we begin making plans so she will achieve it.
OWN YOUR LIFE’S STORY: For most of us, the
adage about hindsight being 20-20 is probably true. The knowledge we have today
may have led us to making other choices – but at least we have that knowledge,
and can benefit from those experiences as we make future decisions. Acknowledge
your personal history. Own every one of your challenges and triumphs.
WELCOME SUPPORT: Accept help and friendship
from family and friends who are kind enough to offer it. Don’t let pride get in
the way during a time you might be most vulnerable. I learned long ago that
allowing others to reciprocate support is truly a shared blessing.
 EMBRACE UNCERTAINTY: The landscape of
separation and divorce is new territory. It will often feel like you are
venturing onto a new continent without a road map or visitor’s guide. Keep in
mind that there is no single perfect route. Take risks that feel right for you
and your family no matter how daunting they may seem.
RELAX: Take time for yourself even when you
feel you can least afford it. You cannot give to others what you don’t have
reserved within yourself. You may be facing the pressures of earning more money
or increased parenting responsibilities, but you cannot do what needs to be done
until you first care for yourself. Take time each day to assess your own needs
and do something nurturing to satisfy them.
The
true spirit of my work is to inspire record numbers of separated and divorced
women to proclaim their power. You already have everything you need to navigate
these five steps to P-O-W-E-R. Are you ready to proclaim your own?
About Author:
Jennifer
Snyder
is a personal coach and workshop leader for divorced women who cannot wait to
proclaim their own power. She can be reached at 919.414.7197,
Email:
Time-of-Your-Life@nc.rr.com
or visit her
Website at
www.TimeOfYourLifeAfterDivorce.com and
www.SelfCareForWomen.net.
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