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A
Letter to a Friend Goring Through Divorce
Kim Korinek
from
www.spirituality.com
Dearest
girlfriend,
 I was so sorry to hear about your divorce.
Please accept some words of comfort from someone
who’s been there. I went through a divorce. I
didn’t want it, but there it was.
I tried everything I could to make the marriage
work. I had hoped we would have five boys. (This
was before I knew anything about raising boys.) I
had hoped we would have a life full of adventures.
I had hoped we would be happy.
I remember trying so hard.
But soon,
even the hope that the marriage would be saved
became a cheat to me, because it never led to a
resolution. I remember trying so hard, putting so
much energy into making the marriage work, that at
one point, I couldn’t even hold my head up,
literally, it made me so tired. I was physically,
emotionally and mentally depleted. That was my
point of waking up to two things:
One—it takes two people to make a marriage—and
I was the only one wanting this marriage to work.
Two—this was an ideal time to understand my
relationship with God. The understanding that I
had an unbroken relationship to God saved me. It
saved me from letting shame overpower me, it saved
me from my fear of being alone, and it saved me
from feeling like a failure, undesirable and
unloved.
What I learned leads me to tell you that God
loves you. God is the source of Love, of all that
is good. This is the same God who sees you in His
image and likeness, who delights in you, who
includes you as an integral part of His design.
Yes, you have a mission and God needs you to
fulfill it.
At the time of my divorce, my job also ended. I
suddenly needed a car and a place to live. All
along the way, sometimes with tears and feeling
quite scared, I held to the idea that God loves
me. This helped me see possibilities I might have
missed.
A friend who knew about my situation helped me
find a place to stay with two women who knew
nothing about my situation. The place was one
block from a lake where I could take long walks
with these two new friends.
I took great joy in this newfound sense of
completeness. I became more adventurous and took
up whitewater kayaking and racing. Through this
activity I met a man who, a few years later,
became my husband. And the icing on the cake was
that he came from a family of five boys! We now
have two boys (which is really the perfect number
for us!).
I don’t know where your journey will take you,
my friend, but I know you will not lose anything
good. You are not alone. You are forever connected
to Love. You have a reason for living. Take care
of yourself by getting to know God better and
taking the time to get a sense of what divine Love
is. Be wrapped up in it. Love is right where you
are. And this journey with Love only brings
blessings.
With peace, from your friend.
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