Do you know how it feels when a man totally adores you? You walk into the room and he can’t take his eyes off of you because to him you a beautiful and rare gem. Do you know how it feels to be with a man who knows your imperfections and despite so thinks you are absolutely perfect? Do you know how it feels to be put on a pedestal and treated with complete admiration just for being you? Well if you don’t, you should!
I finally met a guy and this is exactly how I feel when I’m with him. As though I could do nothing wrong and he’d still feel like the luckiest man to have me by his side. Oh, and the fact that I have kids? Well this just makes me even more valuable in his eyes. It’s the best feeling ever and every one of you beautiful and amazing moms deserve to feel like this.
I used to think that I had to deserve the adoration of a man. I thought that if I could win his adoration, I would be worthy of his love. But this was my insecurities telling me I’m not good enough but the truth is I’ve always been good enough. I only had to win my adoration. I’m finally at that place where I can say that I love myself and would never change for anyone. Yes, I adore myself and now I only date men who treat me like a queen and admire me for who I am and believe me, they are out there ladies.
So how do you meet a guy like this? The first question you need to ask is how do you feel about yourself? Do you admire yourself? Do you truly believe you deserve to be adored and treated like a beautiful queen without having to do anything to earn it? You have to believe that you do before a man can treat you like this because if you believe that you’re not worthy of such adoration, this energy will be felt by any man. It took me changing my energy from believing I had to work harder for everything because I’m a single mother to believing that I’m perfect just the way I am. During my phase of completely re learning myself, I tried a lot of different exercises and this one is one of my favorites. The very first day I did it, I started noticing a change in how I see myself. So I want you to try what I did and I promise this will completely change how you see yourself. Soon you will see all the reasons why every man should absolutely admire you and treat you like the queen you are!
First. Write down all the reasons you believe hinder you from finding your dream man who will totally adore and love you. My reasons were 1 I’m getting too old to date, 2 I’m a single mom, 3 I don’t have time, 4 I have cats (yes I know this is silly but a lot of men don’t like cats!) and 5 I’m a deeply emotional person. Your list can be as long as you want and there is nothing too silly to write down. Get them all in there.
Second. All the things you’ve written down are called blocks. They are the beliefs you have about yourself that keep you from finding the attention you deserve. These blocks can give off very negative vibes from you. So we need to turn them into positive beliefs. Take each one and think about how you want to feel about it and write that down on a separate piece of paper. For example, one of mine was that I’m a single mom. So I turned that into a positive belief by writing down that men should admire that I’m a mother because it’s one of the best and most lovable things about me. Another was that I’m deeply emotional and this is intimidating to a lot of men. I turned that around by saying men should admire that the fact that I can feel so deeply makes me a very compassionate and colorful woman.
Third. Take your lists and find a quiet place where you can be left alone to your thoughts. Take a few deep breaths and relax. Read each one of your blocks out loud and allow yourself to acknowledge it. Take a few minutes and allow yourself to really feel how these make you feel. Really take it in because this is the last time they’re going to have any hold on you. Cry, get mad, whatever you need to acknowledge them.
Fourth. When you’re done reading your blocks, rip the paper and let this be a symbol of releasing these blocks. You’ve acknowledged them and now you’re ready to say goodbye to them and move on. All those reasons that kept you from feeling like you deserve to be loved and completely adored by the man of your dreams are no longer in your way. This will take reminding yourself daily for some time but little by little, you’ll come to believe all the things you want to believe about yourself. You deserve to.
Fifth. Now you’re going to take your list of positive beliefs and read through each one. Not only read through them but imagine how each one feels when you truly believe it about yourself. Imagine how good it feels to know that you are an amazing, one of a kind and much desired woman. To know that any man would feel lucky to have you. To truly believe that you deserve nothing less than exactly what you want because you are amazing.
And last. Now for the enlightening part. Take your list of positive beliefs and I want you to create a ritual every morning where you will read your list either silently or out loud to remind yourself that you deserve to be adored. My ritual was every morning, I would make a cup of coffee before the kids got up and I would go out back where I’m surrounded by trees and silence and I would read through my list. But not only would I read through it, I would imagine what each positive belief would feel like once I really truly and deeply believed it about myself. I felt a little silly at first but by the end of my first morning ritual, I was smiling and feeling more confident. And now, I believe every single one and there isn’t a single person who can convince me otherwise.
Ladies, I want all of you to feel the way this man has made me feel because all of you deserve to. You deserve to feel like you don’t have to do anything to be treated like a queen. But what I know now is that it all has to start with you believing that you are a queen. The things that make you worthy of being admired and adored are so many but that you are a single mom means that you are unbelievably beautiful, compassionate, and strong and wise and any man would be lucky to have you. And if you believe otherwise about yourself, then go to my personal blog at www.moderndaysinglemom.com and email me.