Single mothers have a lot to juggle, and in all this juggling they often tend to put themselves last. This is also the reason why many single moms will miss danger signs completely when they begin to date again. They forget to guard themselves and their attention is so focused on the kids only that they sadly often become sitting ducks for people to take advantage of.
As single mothers it is important that we tread with caution when dating since any mishap in their area will automatically affect the kids and home front too. So below are a few signs that single moms need to read as ‘danger’ when they return to a dating scene:
- Keeping you as a secret - If your date is very keen to keep you a secret, this means you should be cautious immediately. The need to hide your relationship from everyone in his world clearly spells trouble. If you date does not want to meet anyone from your circle and hides you from his, then there is something unnatural about it. The guy may be hiding something from you or worse still maybe wanting to take advantage of you without anyone else finding out. So if you are in such a relationship re-examine it at all levels.
- Pushing too hard – If you find that your date is pushing too hard and wanting to meet everyone in your side, the kids and get to know your family and friends, be suspicious. If something is too good to be true most probably it is. Do not trust your date blindly, and if you find that he is pushing too hard to move into the next level, simply tell him to slow down, and also keep your caution up. Someone who is desperate for entry into your world could be coming in with an agenda of his own.
- Substance abuse - In case you find signs of substance abuse, run away as fast as you can. If you date is into substance abuse, chances are that your relationship is not going to be a pleasant one. Your kids may also get exposed to this unpleasantness and it could upset your life drastically. Addicts are hardly in control of themselves and such a relationship almost always spells trouble.
- Hitting/ anger bouts – If your man ever lays a hand on you, this is a sure sign that you should be immediately out of the relationship. If your date has problems controlling his anger and you find his getting aggressive with you or others also, leave. There have been numerous cases where women have had fatal interactions with men who could not control their tempers. So anger issues and hitting are never acceptable at all and you should never give in to them irrespective of how involved you are in the relationship.
The danger signs listed above will come in handy for single moms to access if their relationship is on the right path or not. As a single mother you just cannot afford to walk down a dangerous path and so if you see these signs, please to reassess your relationship and get out of it if it smells of trouble.