The last few years I’ve dated older men and younger men and I’ve found that both groups have advantages over the other. I like both for different reasons and I definitely approach my situation with a man differently depending on his age. So here I break down what I’ve learned about dating older and younger men.
Older men have had more years to gain knowledge. I’ve found that I can have more intellectual conversations with older men and they can keep the conversation going by adding on what they know. For example, I’m a total nerd when it comes to astronomy and cosmology and I think it’s wonderful that older men can carry on and engage in an intellectual conversation with me on those very topics.
Older men know what to say and when to say it. When I’m having a PMS day and I’m exceptionally emotional and cranky, the last thing I want is for the man I’m with to ask me “What the hell is wrong with you”? I once dated an older man who knew that when I was feeling cranky during that special time of the month that I didn’t like to talk much. So he would admittedly keep his comments about my crankiness to himself.
Older men listen. They have more experience with women and they’ve learned that when they actively take in and apply what we say, they make us feel special by doing so. I dated an older man who gained my trust quicker than any man I’ve ever dated by really listening to me when I was talking about something important to me. Not only that, he would prove that he listened to me by bringing up things I had told him in the past in our conversations and I’d find myself thinking, wow this guy really cares about me!
Older men know what they want in a woman. Older men have had enough time to figure out what they want in a woman. They’ve been through the trials and tribulations of relationships and dating and they are ready to settle down. So if you are what they want, they will no doubt treasure you and take the direct approach when it comes to convincing you that you should be with them. Be ready to feel like a queen!
Older men will more than likely be more understanding and respectful of your situation if you’re a single mom. Older men have had more time to experience women in their roles as a mother and chances are they have their own kids. They will understand when you have to cancel plans because of a sick child and they’ll understand when you don’t have the ability to hit the town at last moment’s notice.
Older men are passionate. Older men have had enough time to experiment and learn what women want. Passion! They know how to play off of your subtle cues and reactions to touch you and kiss you just right and leave you wanting more. Older men aren’t afraid to find out what it is that you want and they don’t waste time finding out either.
I personally love younger men! They’re just undeniably fun! And they complement my playful nature. Life should in part be about having fun and younger men will no doubt keep you on your toes in the “fun” department. Younger men have a childish selfishness and energy to them that keeps them searching for the next “good time”. Whether it be skinny dipping or adventuring through a jungle in another part of the world, they don’t think as much about all the possible consequences. They just go for it! So if you want to add some spontaneity to your routine life, go for a younger man!
Younger men admire older women and single mothers alike. They admire and love our independence. When I tell a younger man that I own my own house, car and I provide for my children all on my own they look at me with that you’re so cool look that I have to admit is quite adorable! Their admiration of our independence can also be an ego booster.
Younger men are open-minded. They haven’t been influenced by as many past experiences that influence their decisions. Older men are less accepting of a situation outside of their ideals or comfort zone whereas a younger man has more room for impression and is more willing to take on a new and unexplored situation. So if you want to run off and join the circus and travel the world, you’re more likely to find support from a younger man.
Younger men are more modern. Younger men have been raised in a society that’s less diversified by female and male roles. In their days, women are working full time a lot more and are seen as a lot more capable of making important decisions. They also haven’t grown up in a society where they are expected to become the alpha hero. Today men are more in touch with their feminine side which is good news for us! Younger men are more likely to not be ashamed of ordering a cosmopolitan right alongside with us or to jump in and help us fold laundry.
Personally, I would recommend trying both avenues if you’re dating and wondering about the whole age controversy. I think the only real way to find out what you like is by personal experience. Just remember to have fun, be open minded and if you’re a single mom, don’t let that keep you from dating someone. You don’t always know what you want until you’ve found it.