Having a new born in the house can turn everything upside down, and the situation is worse if it is the first baby in the house. Soon there is baby stuff all over the house, and you soon feel like a zombie, due to lack of sleep. If you find that you are one of those moms, do not worry. With just a few simple changes you can learn the fine art of balancing the act between keeping the home tidy, and caring for the baby as well.
Here are a few tips:
- Do not fall into a schedule trap – Most efficient new moms will try and make a schedule so that they can stay on top of things. They will plan out their day to the T. time to baby to sleep, time to do the laundry, feed the baby, take a bath, dust house and so on and so forth. This so called planning leads to unnecessary frustrations. You may chalk out a plan but baby may play spoil sport and instead of you enjoying your new found motherhood, you begin to fret. End result; negativity.
- Prioritize – Instead of a schedule, make a list of priorities. Of course baby comes first. Her needs are to be given the most attention. Remember, twenty years down the line it may not matter if the bed sheet was crumpled but it will matter if you ignored the child and made her feel unwanted. After tending to the baby’s needs, look around to see what is the most important thing that needs to be done first. Cooking food, cleaning up the kitchen, grocery shopping, cleaning up, etc will need to be listed. Once you find time on your hands, pick up the priority list and begin from the top. So once baby has been put down for her nap, get to the cooking first. After that if you have time get on to the cleaning up of the kitchen. In the mean time if the baby is up again, tend to her instead of your list. A small word of warning here, do not put your self too low on the list. You need rest too and it should be placed in the slot after the baby.
- Learn to see the larger picture – More new moms get frustrated since they feel their life is slipping out of their hands and they are losing control. This is not the case. Learn to the see the larger picture instead of day to day life. If you are having guests over and have not been able to cook for them, order out and be upfront about how the new baby is keeping you busy. In some time these people will not even remember the food they ate, but rather the good time they had.
The balance between dealing with a new baby and keeping home is achieved by striking a balance in your mind. The more peaceful and relaxed you are the better you will be able to deal with the situation. Stress is only going to take away from your motherhood and make you feel low and depressed. So keep your chin up and enjoy the new baby since soon she will grow up and you will have all the time in the world to clean your drawing room and dust the attic.