Baby blues are very real and while most men may think of them as just a passing phase, they can stay on for a long time and may convert in a full blown depression. New moms are almost always apprehensive, and if they are first time moms these jitters can be very serious ones. It is especially hard if the new mom is a single new mom.
If you are a new mom or on your way to becoming one and are super scared of how things are going to be, here are a few tips:
- Organize – The new mom jitters come on because you feel out of control. The fear of how you will manage the new baby. What will happen if the child gets fever, how will you feed the child and other similar fears give rise to jitters. The more you organize your life the more in control you will feel and this control will allow you to keep the jitters at bay. The baby’s needs your own time table, feeding area and also medications and medical contacts – organize everything to the T.
- Information – In many cases the new mom jitters come along because of lack of information. Not knowing what is going to happen once the baby is born can scare a new mom to be. How will you need to hold the infant, what is the best way to put the kid to sleep, diaper her or even care for her when she falls ill? These are only some of the concerns that ca drive a new mom insane. The need here is to educate yourself about these aspects of raising a child. There is a lot of information available that will help you to understand how to deal with the various problems. Asking your doctor friends, family and other mothers is also a very good idea. The more you know the less scared you will be.
- Support – New mom blues are very common but you need to understand that you are not alone in this situation. Joining a new mom group will help you feel better and you shall also find support in these ladies. So try and find new mom groups in the neighborhood, on the net or even in elsewhere. Gathering support from friends and family while trying to find your feet during the first few months of mother- hood, will also help to keep your sanity. Those who have raised kids before will help you to stay on top of things and also lend you some good advice on how to fight the new mom blues.
New mom worries are not unreal at all. Raising a kid is a difficult job and the first few months can be very tiring emotionally as well as physically. At this time fatigue and mental exhaustion can combine to play badly on a new mom’s health. Keeping things as sane as possible and remember that this to shall pass. Soon the baby will settle down and so will you.