The statistics can get pretty grim, in terms of the amount of children of single parents living in poverty, especially, and the disparity in education, income and marriage rate for Black women compared to their White counterparts.
But this book isn’t about statistics, because, as I stated before, we and our children are not statistics. A statistic is a number and, all too often, a basis for those in power to make gross generalizations and promote stereotypes. But we are not stereotypes. We’re not bitter, broken middle-aged women angry at our ex-husbands for choosing younger, perkier-breasted trophy wives. Nor are we under-educated, poor teenagers or young adults who don’t have a clue about responsibility and the real world and what it takes to make it. And we’re certainly not all sitting silently, wasting away, waiting for a man to come and rescue us and our children and make us into a real family.
We are women. We are mothers who love our children. And we are not single. Single means alone, solo, void of company, void of companionship. We are dating, exploring our options for relationships, exploring our desires and needs and wants—exploring what we want from others and what we’re willing to give. Whether we’re just looking for steady, reliable companionship and fun or whether we’re seeking marriage, we’re out here simply living life!
Now, being a dating mom can be challenging. Depending on your circumstances (the ages and personalities of your children, your relationship with children’s dad, your own personal proclivities and habits, history, etc.), it can be extremely difficult or it can be smoother than you ever dreamed. This book covers some of the basic, general topics that you may encounter as a dating mom.
Now mind you, this book will not offer any pointers in selecting the right types of men to date. Everybody’s got their types and we all know, the heart wants what the heart wants. But we’re going to assume, as a dating mom, that you’re already equipped with the know-how to detect a man who is best qualified to be a suitable potential mate to you and a positive influence to your children.
If you’re still hell-bent on choosing the ‘wrong types’ (and you know deep-down in your heart if you are), then this is not the book for you. If you are still attracted to trying to do the right thing with the wrong types of men, finding yourself picking the same guy over and over again (just with different facial features and body structures!) or attracted to men with destructive habits or you, yourself, have destructive habits that you are running away from, then this is not the book for you.