How do your feelings effect your energy in such a way that you attract more of what you want or what you don’t want into your life? Take two simple scenarios. Let’s say you walk by someone who is walking with confidence and smiling as though they are having the best day of their lives. Their energy makes you want to smile back at them, right? Their energy attracts more happiness. Now let’s say you walk by someone who is frowning with their head down and appears to hate their life. This makes you want to get further away from them. These people attract more unhappiness.
Your mind is very powerful and affects the things that happen in your daily life. If you feel good and you’re happy, then you’re going to attract more of this through your energy. That’s why it’s important to take care of you and feel good. That’s not to say you should avoid the feelings that make you feel bad but don’t waste more time on them than necessary. There’s always a way to feel better and if you can learn to harness the power of feeling good through your life experiences, you can attract more and more good things. It just gets better and better. So how do you do this?
Turn your negative feelings into good ones. Maybe you’ve been lied to or cheated on. Maybe you got pregnant and the father left you completely alone. Whatever it is, it’s in your past and it no longer has power over your future. Do you believe this? You have to because you are the only one who can decide to let it go or let it drown you. I recently wrote a post about how to turn negative thoughts into good ones. What I instructed readers to do is exactly what I’ve been doing for some time now and it works! Take your negative feelings about love and write each one down. As mentioned before, maybe you’ve been cheated on and now you feel unworthy or that there are no honest men out there. Maybe you were abandoned when you became pregnant and you don’t trust men now. Whatever it is, write it down.
Now that you have your list, I want you to find a quiet place where you can be alone. Go over each feeling that you’ve written down and acknowledge it either quietly or out loud. Now what is the opposite of this bad feeling? What is it that you want to feel instead? You don’t have to put words to this because honestly, sometimes words cannot describe feelings. Now close your eyes and imagine what this opposite good feeling feels like. Maybe it’s that you have fallen in love with someone you know will never cheat on you or even dream of leaving you. Close your eyes and imagine this in detail and really allow yourself to feel it as though it is happening right now. This is how you turn those bad feelings into powerful good ones. Use this technique every time you start to feel bad about something. Just acknowledge it and then imagine the way you want to feel about it. Let this feeling good penetrate your reality and soon enough, it will start to become your reality because when your energy is positive and good, your reality has to become that.
Harness the power of the good feelings. What was it about your relationships in the past that made you feel good? Maybe it was one of the guys you were just dating used to tell you how beautiful you are and you could tell he really meant it. Maybe your ex-boyfriend or husband used to really put effort into planning awesome dates for you. Don’t remember the who’s, where’s, what’s or when’s of these things but just simply remember how you felt in those moments and allow yourself to feel those feelings again. Don’t be afraid to feel these again. Feeling good inspires you and gives clarity to your desires in love. Your feelings show you with more honesty than anything what you want. For example, I remember one time when I was sitting in a beautiful restaurant with my boyfriend at the time and out of nowhere he grabbed my hand gently from across the table and just stared at me with such openness and honest love that it scared me a little. I even looked away because what he made me feel at that moment was such joy that I’d never felt before. I allow myself to feel this from time to time because it feels good. That feeling is branded in my memory and I want it to be my reality again. I want someone who isn’t afraid to look at me and show me with their eyes what they feel for me in their heart. What I learned from the way that moment made me feel is that you can love someone so much that words aren’t needed. I want to find a love that strong. He isn’t what I want but that feeling is and the more I feel it, the more I attract it so that one day soon enough there will be a man who can give me that feeling again in his own way.
These good feelings, when you practice feeling them over and over (detached from the person who gave you them) start to affect your energy in a way that attracts more of the things and people who can bring you more of these feelings. So practice feeling them. Don’t try to understand them, just let feel good and you will start to notice things changing. I’ll give you a recent example. I dated a guy a few years ago who kissed me on the head and I loved it when he did that. It made me feel adored. I’ve been practicing this feeling and funny enough, every guy that I’ve dated since practicing this feeling of adoration has kissed me on the head. I love it! I love how it makes me feel and it’s so much fun to practice.
You don’t need someone to feel love. You just need to feel it and believe it. If you believe in love and you practice feeling it, you will attract it. Start small and for one day practice a good feeling. Believe in it, have faith in it and expect it and watch as evidence of its existence in your life is shown to you. I promise it works!
Next: As you practice feeling good and you notice good things happening in your love life, it’s important to keep your attention centered on you and not the men you are dating. This is your time to be spoiled and your time to shine. So I will talk about keeping your attention centered on you so that you avoid becoming anxious.