Going off on a romantic weekend is indeed exciting but when you have to worry about the kids that you are leaving behind, it can get a bit complicated. Matters become even worse when you are a single mom who is going off for a weekend with her date. There will be a fair amount of planning involved and you will have to look into the welfare of the kids at a physical level and also an emotional one.
Some pointers below will help you to organize the kids’ time when you go off on a romantic weekend with your date:
- Fun for kids – While you can always plan your weekend in a way that someone babysits the kids at home, it is always better if your children have a fun weekend as well. If the children are old enough plan an outing for them too. Two nights at their grandparents home or off with their father on a short vacation will work much better than leaving the kids at home with a sitter. Not only will this help the kids to feel busy but they will also not feel that you are having fun while they have been left at home.
- Emotional security – When going off for you weekend talk to the kids about your program. Tell them exactly which flight you are boarding, when you will be back and at what time. Give them your hotel details and also your contact number along with your date’s cell number. The children should feel free to contact you at any given time and must be given the assurance that you are coming back in two days. Do understand that living without their father is a big move for them and seeing you go may translate as abandonment for them. The more they know of your whereabouts the less likely they are to feel insecure.
- Safety – Of course the kids must be in a safe environment when you go off for your weekend. Do not leave them in a new place with people they are not comfortable with. In fact it is best to plan your weekend in a way that the kid’s regular schedule is not upset. So if they go to their father’s place every second weekend, then plan your get away at this time too. Leaving the kids in a new place will make them uncomfortable and you may actually have to cut your trip short if the children act up. Worse still they may feel that their comfort was shelved in order for you to enjoy time with your date and this may make the kids a bit hostile or negative.
You have every right to start your life over again and enjoy your romantic vacations. Simply plan them well and you will find that you are able to have a good time without worrying about the kids at all.