Single Mothers & Social Networking

Single Mothers & Social NetworkingSocial networking such as Facebook, Twitter, blogging, and online forums can be such an asset in a single parents life. They provide the ability to stay in touch with friends and family, help communication with exes, monitor children as they are apart, and offer support with likeminded families, and even have the ability to meet and date other singles.

Getting in touch with old friends is a fun way to catch up and find contacts to hang out with when you get the chance, but don’t limit yourself to the past. Making new friends online may give you the chance to meet people that better fit your lifestyle today. Online forums are for sharing stories and resources in the same way women have for all time except in an online forum setting. This companionship is priceless.

When there is a split with children involved, it may be easy to think you want to completely disconnect from your ex, but online networks can be the connection to your children when they are with them. They may post pictures that keep you reassured that your children are indeed having a good time and are where they said they would be. If you are not ready to see your ex dating again or living carefree then there are definitely times to cut that online connection. A healthy conversation about what you will vow to post and not post online about your past relationship can curb any awkwardness your mutual friends may also feel about your split. Don’t let online networks divide you further from your children and friends; instead let it bridge that gap.



Dating online, whether through a service or just your social network, has its pros and cons. It is a very convenient format to get to know someone with no strings attached. There is no obligation to advance the friendship if you are not attracted. Keep true to who you are and don’t journey outside your comfort zone when chatting with someone online. Take baby steps to discover if you have a great deal in common and remember that online conversation is no substitute for an in-person meeting. Be safe when you do decide to meet in person by meeting in a public place and by bringing another couple to join you. Don’t let online dating go from the chat room to the psychiatrist’s couch; have your expectations and be prepared.

Many single parents develop web sites and post their kids’ pictures online for their distance family and friends to see. Often using MySpace, YouTube, Facebook and other social networking sites. You need to consider the possibility that your children’s images can be viewed and you have absolutely no control whatsoever to what happens to that image. As a single mother it is important to note that putting photos of you and your children online can cause you to become a target. Never post your location in the photos and be sure to remove your geo-tag, which may pinpoint your location without you even knowing. Photo sites can easily be used and password protected or limit who has access to your photos by paying attention to your settings.

There are several things a single mother should never publicly list online: location, children’s names and ages, identifying information, financial information, and your planned activities. Safety should be of utmost importance when using the Internet. You would never allow your child to list this information and we should be wary of doing it ourselves.

Even if you are too exhausted or under too many deadlines to keep in touch in the traditional way of phone calls, play dates, and dinners, online networking is an outlet to stay in touch with the world. You can scan the members of a forum and see you are not the only one going through your current issues or you can see other single moms online at 2am during your last status update before bed. You can reach out and ask questions that you may not know where or how to ask elsewhere. While it is important as you social network to not let it become an addiction and to minimize the time you spend online, a healthy dose of adult conversation online is essential.

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  1. Marilyn says

    I’m so lucky and blessed in so many ways. I’m a single mother to a 10 years old boy. It’s hard to believe that I’ve been successfully raising all alone for all these years. I was able to put myself through nursing school and now through my a Masters program. I hope I can be an inspiration to all single mothers. I have a strong family support system and a mother and an aunt who has really helped me through it all. They have made it possible for me to go back to school and make a better life for my son and I. They have made it possible for me to work the long hospital hours so that I can provide for my little family. I single handily do this on my own. Don’t get me wrong they are times I rather stay in bed and feel sorry for my self and feel that enormous ache inside of not being a complete family. I look at my friends family with such envy until my heart literally ache with so much pain that I feel like I can’t even breath. Then I get up because I have a mouth to feed. My son keeps me strong when I just don’t want to be strong anymore.

    I’m one of the lucky few single mothers to have a good job. I have a job that pays me to continue my education. I’m very lucky to have that. I also am very lucky to have such an amazing kid. We travel often. We camp and just take long drives. It feels so nice to get away and just be in nature. I’m lucky to have a job that allows me to do this.

    I also have been dating a man, it’s hard for him to accept the fact that I have a kid. At this point, I’m not too sure if he can handle a single mother and the changes that must take place in his life to accommodate us. Knowing that I will be ok if things doesn’t work gives me a sense of that things will be ok. I did what I could and tried as much as I could. It’s just sad that the joy and love I feel for my son, some man just aren’t able to feel. I understand that it’s not his son so I can have these expectations, but sometimes all it takes is opening you heart.

    I have an exciting life ahead of me, even if I have to go at it alone.
    I have more white hair then I can pull out due to all the stress of being a single parent but I’m still standing and ready to face my challenges. I still have hope that I will one day find the right man who will not only love me but love my son.

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