Failure is part of life and while all parents wish their kids success always, failure is inevitable. If we do not teach our kids how to deal with failure and move on, they may crumble under its pressures. If our kids learn the art of handling failure they can not only cope with it better but also pick themselves up sooner and move on with their lives.
Some tips below on how to help children handle failure:
- Acceptance- Children need to learn to accept their failure if they are going to even start to deal with it. Sometimes we as parents may pressurize them and as a defense mechanism they will refuse to accept that they have lost. Kids screaming that they have not lost a race or they did not loose a bet or they did not fail to achieve their target, when actually they did, are all an indication of non acceptance of failure. As a mom, you will need to step in here and help them to understand that denial will not get them anything. However, if they accept their failure, they can actually learn from it.
- Responsibility- The next step is to make the child understanding that shifting blame on others for a failure he/she suffered is not a good idea. Most kids will blame others for their failures and right from a health condition to another person being the reason, almost any excuse will do. Here moms need to step in and guide the children on the path of responsibility. Taking responsibility for their failures instead of trying to blame others is a very important step of dealing with failure and kids must learn this.
- Moving on- Once the child has accepted the failure and taken responsibility for it, now is the time to move on. Encourage your child to try again if the thing is very important to the kid. However if trying again is not an option, they you must cajole your child to move on with life. Moaning and crying over a failure is not fruitful. Simply accepting the fact and moving on is all that matters.
- Learning - Teach your kids that when they loose, they should not loose the lesson. All failures bring a lesson along with them and if your child can pick up the right lesson from the failures then success is not too far off. So if your kid lost a race because she did not practice for it, then help her to learn that next time putting in a goo amount of practice should not be overlooked. The lesson is what will make that difference between a success and a repeat failure.
Kids are quick learners and while their eyes filled with tears can make anyone’s heart melt, it is important that they learn to handle failure sooner than later. This is a lesson that will help them right through their lives and help them get back on the wagon after they fell off it.