Remember when you blamed yourself or others for all that was wrong with life? I guess there are times when that just makes us feel better. There were times when I was a young mother, when I was very frustrated because I had it so much harder than others did. I had to check myself and remember, there was nobody to blame here, it was just a fact of life. I was the mother of my children, this job was all mine. True, it was the father’s responsibility too, but it was very unlikely that I could ever keep of where he was half the time. I have a loving family and a support group of wonderful friends. Still, I would feel sad about the wright on my shoulders, and sometimes I wanted to vent it out to the world! Life just isn’t fair. I always gained perspective when I looked at my children. They didn’t ask for these sad, difficult, hard years either. Children just want to be loved and feel happiness. They could care less if we have new furniture or a savings account, (rare treasures, among single moms anyway).
When you find yourself getting heated about life and you think people should be more aware of your situation, take a step back and breathe. Remember your kids faces, and how it makes you feel to see their happy smiles. Give them a sense of security, knowing whatever happens mommy will always be there for them. It’s like lightening bolts and thunder, life can be the biggest natural disaster one day, and be quiet, calm and peaceful the next. Lose the anger, it prevents you from growing as a woman and a mother. Find alternatives to vent and discuss your situation, whether with family, friends, neighbors, or support groups. There is a sounding board, just don’t take it out on your children. They didn’t ask for this. Find a book at your local library about your struggles, when you have those precious few moments all to yourself. Look for inspirational reading material with women who have gone through similar experiences. Books and articles won’t bring money to your wallet, but it can give you resources to live better, dream bigger and succeed.
Instead of seeing thunder as loud, harsh and violent. Think of it as a magic show for Nature. It brings peace, beauty and blue skies. Almost every negative has another side. A lesson, a truth, a vision, a story, a new beginning. Fuel that energy towards happiness.
Article by Laurie Cesario-Overton