Life is hard. Sometimes, it knocks the wind out of you. Sometimes you feel, you are the only person fighting this battle. If just once, today could be different. Maybe today you will be proud of a moment that went well.
Knowing how unpredictable life can be, is there any wonder why we aren’t as prepared as we should be? Of course not, because there are things that happen, that are just out of your control. Now is the time, to have faith and believe in something bigger than ourselves.
Life isn’t fair, and I remember my mother telling me that, quite often, when I would come home from school and tell her what someone said to me, or a name I was called. “Life isn’t always fair, Laurie Jean,” she would say, and I really disliked her reminding me of that.
Now I am a grown woman, a mother of five, a grandmother of two and 3/4 and a step-mom to three other grown children. I see now that life isn’t always fair. I have lived through being a single mom, and having to choose groceries over the light bill. Milk over diapers. Shampoo over lunch snacks. I know. Life can kick you down and make you beg for a break, even the slightest, teeny little break. I can remember crying into my pillow at night, praying my kids would not hear their mommy cry. I was scared, sad, frustrated, and lonely, because everything depended on me. Raising my five kids was on my shoulders.
I had faith in a higher power, God. I knew to pray every single day and ask for guidance and strength. I did rely on my faith, every single day. It’s just that sometimes the load gets very heavy and you question whether you have to tools, the strength to make all the right decisions, the big, heavy decisions. Well, I can tell you something…You do. You and many other wonderful, loving, single moms out there have what it takes to raise your child up from what can seem like the depths of despair. You can be strong, and make choices, even if they are tough. You look around and see these kids didn’t ask to come into our lives, we brought them in. Now it is up to us to love them and take care of them.
We live without many luxuries and fancy things when we are a single parent. We teach our children to work hard in school and life will give you more choices. Life isn’t fair, it can kick you down and make you cry. Yet through it all, it will also give you the tools you need to pick yourself up, and move forward.
The fair fight is within our own hearts. Be fair to yourself, you are a beautiful mother and a warrior to all!
Article by Laurie Cesario-Overton