I hope you “REAL” single moms out there are not comparing yourselves to those celebrity single mothers. I certainly think it is wonderful that so many women feel their biological clock ticking away, and want to adopt their own “little bundle.” These “Hollywood Moms” have the money, the perfect housing situation, all the groceries they could ever want and the opportunity to hire extra help. They live with all the accessories of a life, we have never known.
You can pick up any magazine to see some of our favorite celebrities walking along by their favorite stores with their kids dressed in their cute, funky, trendy, designer clothes, it looks so adorable. It’s not “our” world. It’s the world of opulence and fortune. Not that this is wrong, or bad, just that it’s not real to thousands of regular, hard working, single moms.
It’s easy to be swayed into believing or wishing your life could resemble that someday. Not unless we marry a millionaire, become an over-night sensation, or win the lottery. The reality: We single moms don’t have enough food half the time, rarely go out to dinner, and can only pray for extra help once in a while. That would be in the form of a grandmother, an aunt, a neighbor or a good friend. Even with that, we usually feel guilty to take some time for ourselves, if ever.
No, our life is filled with: what’s for dinner, take out the trash, pay the bills, wash the clothes, feed the pets, bathe the kids, check on the homework, juggle the utility bills with the grocery bill, or perhaps even a school event that requires extra cash you do not have. That’s the glamorous life of a single mom.
Do I wish the Hollywood life for every single mother? No, not really. My life was a constant struggle with my four kids and then adopting my three year old nephew, and that took eight more years of heartache and tears. It was really tough sometimes and I cried many nights in my bed. I begged God to help me stay strong, and “keep my happy” going. Every roadblock that came my way, got me here, where I am now. Every lesson, that I didn’t want to learn made me the confident woman I am today. Every sigh, every tear, every hug made me realize my work was as good as anyone else. What sets us apart from those “Hollywood Moms” is this: We live in the moment, sometimes a very happy moment, and sometimes a desperate moment. We make important decisions on our own, that will help shape our childrens future. We are the CEO of our family and set the standards by which are children will grow and develop into wonderful human beings.
It’s the most important job on the face of this EARTH! With just one hurdle or major obstacle in the path of a celebrity mom, they might tumble and not have the strength to get back up and strive to do better the next time. That’s what all of you single moms have that those with excesses don’t have: A tenacious spirit, that will survive anything!
Pat yourself on the back, be your own celebrity, and make your kids proud!
Article by Laurie Cesario-Overton