It works very well for our kids when they need to be reminded of an action or consequence. When you think about what time-out means, the effect is to reflect on what was done. Without getting too analytical about this, I think mom’s need to give themselves a time-out too. Every once in awhile you need to take time to sit down somewhere and reflect on your day, your thoughts, your actions, your feelings. It isn’t in a negative way, but a positive reinforcement of yourself.
What did you do today that made you feel frustrated or anxious? How did you respond to that situation? What can you do to make better decisions for the next time? How do you give yourself a little space to think about all that is going on in your life?
Not many of us single parents have the luxury of getting a sitter every time we need a “time-out,” but as grown ups we should take the time to reflect. It can bring clarity to our thoughts and helps us to understand why we snap, or feel less centered and balanced, especially when life can be off kilter for most parents.
This “break” can also help teach our own children the value and importance of having some quiet time.
Even in a busy household, you can carve out five or ten minutes a couple of times a day to sit in silence. It’s a very healing thing to do. It’s very similar in learning how to meditate. This time isn’t for shopping, or going out, it’s just for you to be with your thoughts and bring some peaceful grace to your life.
Today at some point, give yourself a “time-out,” and let your mind wander, what do you see? How do you feel? Can you see things differently? What do you want to change?
Give yourself a hug, and be at peace with yourself.
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Article by Laurie Cesario-Overton