Going through a divorce is never easy. It signifies the end of a relationship and if there are kids involved the situation could be much worse. The emotional trauma of the break up makes us feel alone and sad. This is the time when even a ray of hope can keep our confidence levels up. However, while you maybe emotionally troubled, it is important to hold your ground and not fall for relationships that will further complicate matters.
Of course you must go back into the dating world, but it will be best to avoid certain men when getting your life back together since they can only complicate matters more. Some such men that it is best to avoid are listed below:
- Ex’s best friend – That is an absolute no, no. It will complicate matter severely and may even make the kids a bit uneasy. Your ex husband will wonder if there was something going on between the two of you when you were married and the children may also blame you and their dad’s friend for the break up. So unless the best friend is the last man on earth, do steer clear of him. Once the divorce has sunk in and both you are at peace, then it maybe a better time to look into such a relationship, but never when the divorce is fresh.
- Kid’s teachers – Children may not want to advertise their parent’s separation in school and if you end up dating a teacher from school, the child may not like it. It is best to steer clear of the kid’s school in this way and let the child feel comfortable here. If you date a teacher the child may feel awkward during the dating and worse still may suffer the blow of the break up too. So it is best to meet the school teachers only at a professional level and keep your dating life out of the kid’s face.
- Colleagues – After your divorce, you may decide to date someone from office. The problem here is that your divorce may have already created some waves in the work place. If you begin to date someone from office, it could make the politics at work a bit murky. You may suffer the tag of a being loose and fancy free now that you are divorced and it could get worse if your date does not go well and the man in question begins to gossip. It is best to keep the work place unaffected by your marital status and treat work purely as a professional would.
There will be plenty of opportunities that will present themselves to you, and you will be able to pick up your life again. Do not go into these areas since they are usually more trouble than they are worth. Do not complicate your live even more. Take your time.