As a teacher and a mother, I have a special soft spot for children. I believe that all children should be loved, cherished and above all, protected. Nothing burns me up more than parents who think their job as a parent is done as long as shelter, food and clothing are provided. Children need so much more than that in order to become productive, compassionate, confident, fully-realized human beings. As mothers, our job is raise the next generation to be better than we are, to raise the next generation of beings of light who are going to make the world a better place. In order to do that, we need to not only be loving parents, we need to be wise parents.
As dating moms, we may sometimes feel torn between our own personal desires for love, companionship, emotional support and our children’s endless needs for attention and nurturing. Sometimes, we may even feel that we have to sacrifice one for the other. And sometimes, we do have to sacrifice our own desires for pleasure and put our children’s need first. Absolutely. But navigating the complicated demands of being a mom and having a love life is not impossible. It can be done with a little flexibility and finesse.
Hopefully, this book can assist in that process. If anything, as a dating mom, just remember, that you are not trapped. In spite of the sometimes frightening and overwhelming challenges of being a so-called single parent, you are not a statistic. You are blessed beyond belief with the power and authority to change your circumstances, no matter what they are—whether you are seeking marriage, a new career or an opportunity to take an aspect of your life in a totally new direction. We each have the individual personal power to make the changes that we want to occur and manifest the experiences that we want to have in our lives. I firmly believe that.
It’s time for dating moms to start having new conversations. It’s time for Black dating moms or moms of color to start having new conversations, it’s time for moms of any color or ethnicity or culture who have ever felt down-trodden to have new conversations.